The Red Stilettos Game

This is a very, very neat Project Sanctuary game that, if played correctly, will help "align the planes and the totality".

Its name comes from the observation that many women wear red stilettos on the outside, which are the sign of sexual availability, or the metaphor thereof, but "on the inside", they are really a librarian who wants to be admired for their book learning. Or vice versa!

This sort of thing is a form of massive incongruency which causes - well, catastrophes, really, from their love life to their "self concept", What it does to their energy systems, I can't begin to imagine, only that it can't be good, whatever that is ...

The Red Stilettos Game

Let's say, hypothetically, you (in the group plural) were to start advertising your availability in an interstellar dating agency.

You get to send in one picture, which will have to express "who you really are on the inside" so that the RIGHT people will contact you immediately.

• What kind of photograph will you CREATE SPECIFICALLY (and in this exercise, money is not a problem, you can hire Steve Spielberg if you want and a cast of thousands to set the scene!) to show who you are inside?
• What is the background, landscape, lighting, season, time of day, environment?
• Who else is there?
• What are you wearing?
• What are you DOING?

Think old fashioned life sized portrait. These guys used to hold certain objects, such as a telescope for a ship's captain and explorer, and there might be a globe at his feet, a plant from South America behind his left shoulder, a bracelet made of Indian sapphires on his wrist.

Those things are object metaphors to tell people who don't know this guy about who he was and what he was all about, by showing his main endeavours, fascinations, rewards, interests.

What do you put in YOUR picture for that mythical dating agency that delivers the RIGHT people to you in a never ending stream of mystical variety, unified by the single fact that they saw THAT picture, knew immediately in their gut what kind of person you are and wanted EXACTLY that?

For this exercise, I would try to lay aside all I was told about what makes a person attractive and go for the real thing instead, because it is no good to wear the red stilettos if you are not a red stiletto girl "because men like this" as you would be broadcasting on the wrong frequency and get the wrong responses and PEOPLE in return.

Silvia Hartmann, 2004